Advice... date a friends ex? it's really not fair.?

Okay i really need advice on something... i think i like this guy... we're both 20 and he is perfect for me. We're good friends and have been for a while. But lately he's been inviting me over a good bit and we've been hanging out just the two of us. Well.. only problem is that one of my really good friend used to go out with him. That was over 2 years ago though, and she has a wonderful boyfriend now that she's in love with and she said she's over the guy i'm talking about. Well me and my friend (the girl) were talking about guys the other day and she was trying to think of someone to hook me up with and randomly said ';if you ever date *the guy* i wouldn't be able to be friends with you at all anymore';. and the ONLY reason she has to say that is because he's the ONLY guy we know that's perfect for me and she knows it! isn't that a really mean thing for her to say? i mean.. i guess our friendship isn't as strong as i once thought it was. I don't know..... any advice??Advice... date a friends ex? it's really not fair.?
well, which is more important to you? the friendship or the guy?Advice... date a friends ex? it's really not fair.?
It is just one of those understood ';RULES';, that you don't date one of your friends boyfriends. He is not the only guy in this world. You need to find you another man to date because that one if off limits.
This is a sticky situation. Cherri is right its just the known rule....You never date a friends ex! It also goes back to how good of friends you guys are. If you feel like you can live without her friendship then go for it, but if you feel like you want to remain friends with her then don't pursue him. Also how would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? Would you be okay if your friend dated one of your exes? But do what you feel is right I know of a situation just like yours and they two ladies remained friends and the ex and the girl actually got married.
follow your heart. She is happily coupled, so it should not make a difference to her. Unless he dumped her , and she is now on the rebound, it should be of no concern to her.





Does she want him back?.
You know what, if she's really happy, she won't care. If the breakup was amiable and she knows you guys are still friends, then it should be fine. Might be a bit rough at first, but that's to be expected.





Now, if they had a horrible breakup, then I'm afraid you may have to get over this -- chicks before ... bros. Whatever the opposite of ';Bros over Hos'; is. As long as he didn't treat her awfully, you're fine and she'll get over it.





Now, if she just is one of those people who likes to lay claim on everyone they've even liked, then she kind of sucks. I don't know. How long did they date? What were the circumstances surrounding the breakup? That information is key to your query.
it may not be fair but that's how she feels. you can go for it and she may end the friendship or she may realize she doesn't care. you know the chance you would be taking, you just have to decide if it's worth it!





and she shouldn't be mad about the camping, you guys are friends after all





best of luck