Sunday, August 22, 2010

What is the best dating advice you can give to someone, that you have learned yourself?

We took things nice and slowly. It was better not to talk about our past relationships but to move forward one day at a time. He had been married once before and I had never been married so both of us had to learn to trust again. My advice on dating would be:





Never take each other for granted, don't try to change a person into someone they aren't, talk things through as calmly and rationally as possible, don't rush into intimacy, be supportive of each other, never fight in public, learn to trust and support each other, never be too proud to admit you've made a mistake or to say ';I'm sorry,'; treat the other person with respect, remember to praise the other person, don't give the other person any reason to doubt you, let that person know how much they mean to you, don't be a jealous person, make sure you both agree on what you want before you take any big leaps, and always try to take a united stand in front of parents or children.





So far, the above things have worked for us. We dated a little over two years before we got married and we're two months shy of celebrating 27 years of marriage. We have raised my husband's two children who are now grown, we have two grandchildren, and we have one son together who is about to turn 17 and is a Jr. in high school. A relationship is what two people put into it and it's hard work. But it's totally worth all the effort if you are meant to be together.What is the best dating advice you can give to someone, that you have learned yourself?
have an open mind, pay attention, trust, and have faith, no matter what happens or the out come of any situation in a relationship, and stay on the bright side, by that i mean if the person hurts you emotionally or physically, talk about it, or it will scar you emotionally for life. and most importantly, be yourself, because they should like you for you, no matter who you are, what you do, or what you look like. dont go any further than what you are wanting or is comfertable, or it may result in a bad way.What is the best dating advice you can give to someone, that you have learned yourself?
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I鈥檓 pretty sure she answers questions that are sent to her, you might try her for an answer to your question.
don't ever change yourself for anyone


you have to be open, not shy


make it about having fun


don't go farther than what you're comfortable with


always share interests with the person (no not just making out!)


don't be possesive


think of nice things to do for the person
just be yourself and never ever let anyone manipulate you or let you think that you are any less than you actually are.





if you are yourself and you never hold back, then you know that someone likes you for you, and you never have to question...well does he like me because of this thing that really isn't me anyway...





what i mean by being manipulated...i know its hard to see, especially when you are in a relationship with a really cute guy and your young and infatuated...but if a guy hurts you...hes not worth it.





if he dumps you and then wants you back...NO.





Im not saying that any given healthy relationship doesn't have its downs...im just saying that the games are lame and you need ot learn not to fall into them.





if a guy treats you in a way that you think is not as good as you deserve (we lie for guys at times...oh, he was jsut angry...oh its not that big of a deal...ect)...you need to either end it right there or confront him and say...whats the deal.





since being with my bf, and after talking to my mom and dad about their marriage and now new relationships...it all came back to...if someone makes you happy and loves you just as much and you make them happy and love them, and are able to work thought the lowest of your lows with a big hug and a kiss at the end of the night...then its worth it.





when your young most couples are not that mature. young women let boys manipulate them by saying oh i want an open relationship, or im not ready for one. They break up and get back together. trust me...if a guy dumps you and gives you legit reasons, its done, he cant come back and want you again.





friends with benfits is a bad idea if you have a crush...its not going anywhere...it never will...i promise you.





and past that...like i said...be yourself.





ultimately...you know what you want your life to be like, how you want to be treated and how you feel when things happen around you. listen to your gut and the whole heart vs head thing...its just being confused by a guy's manipulation vs. what he has done in the past.





actions speak louder than words. he can cry and kick and scream and tell you he loves you over and over, but if he has dumped you in the past or treated you wrong in the past..
Have fun! But just don't put all your expectations on them. If on every date, you expect someone to be this or that, you will always be let down. Each date will be different, and somehow you'll find some1 special. So keep on dating and just have fun!
Just to be yourself. The person in the first place should just like you for who you are. Maybe your personality as well. Also to just be truthful with that person, if you can't tell that person things, then things won't work out so just be honest.
dating can hurt


don't date the guy your best friend likes


don't date a guy who was you best friend


never date someone secretly


don't let your guard down


be yourself don't pretend you are something other than you are


smile a lot


hold hands


leave cute voice mails


:)
Pick someone who actually likes you and gives you attention. Pick someone who wants to be around you, call you and spend time with you. The trick is to find someone that adores you AND that you are attracted to!
love as if this moments was their last moment on this earth but protect yourself too. You never know when they just up and leave or die.
God is the only Man that will never leave or forsaken you but men will decieve you everytime.
BE YOURSELFFFFFFFFFFFFFF!!! =].. dont act something your not. if the person doesnt like the way u are. ohh well ders other fishes out in dha seaa!
Be honest and communicate.
You can never change someone!!!!
Be honest and tell the truth.
make sure hygiene is good


dont talk about you ex,dont sleep with them on the first date
be ready 4 a kiss in any time and in any where 2 have some fun.
never let your guard down.
yeah honestly never let your gaurd down..or maybe ive been hurt too many times but either way just dont do it

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