Third date advice for 30 year old virgin?

Hi,





I am late into the dating game and am still a virgin (very not normal nowadays) mainly because I was painfully shy when younger.





I have been seeing a girl a few times and on the second date we made out a lot. I am worried about how far she wil want to go on the third date? I want to take things slowly, but dont want to scare her off by revealing too soon my situation so she might think I am weird for going so slow?





Most of my friends seem to sleep with people after a few dates! I was seeing someone last year and a friend insinuated she had said I was not getting physical enough fast enough....so I don't know what to do about the current girl to not scare her off, but take things slowly?Third date advice for 30 year old virgin?
On your previous girl, what your friend insinuated may not be what she actually said, or meant to say, and if that really was worrying her, why didn't she say it to you?





Not all girls are the same, so this one may not be worried about going slow. She may even have the same worries as you.





If you don't know her well enough to tell her your situation, then you probably don't know her well enough to have sex with her (unless it is casual). Which is the bigger deal - telling her your situation, or having sex with her?





It is unlikely that telling her would scare her off. She must have been in your situation once upon a time and possibly still is. So it is most likely she will be sympathetic rather than frightened off.





If something is bothering you and you don't tell her what it is, she will probably notice and may get annoyed that you are not being open with her.





The bottom line is: you should be asking the girl this question, not us.Third date advice for 30 year old virgin?
I think it's good you want to take things slowly, and the girl you're with should respect that. And being a 30 year old virgin is not a bad thing. It isn't the norm, but that doesn't mean that you are weird. You have obviously made the decision to wait for the right person, so if she doesn't accept that you want to take things slowly, she's not the girl for you. Also, you don't even have to tell her that you're a virgin. Just tell her you don't have sex unless you're in a meaningful relationship.



Just say you like to take things slow and not rush into anything. I don't think it will sound weird. Not everybody likes to rush into sex. Some people will do it on the first date. Others will wait over a year. There's no set ';norm'; for this type of thing. I think most girls will appreciate that you like to take things slow. It shows that you're really interested in her as a person and not just looking to get into her pants.
That is so awesome that you are still a virgin! Other than the two dates how well do you know her? Would you feel comfortable explaining that you are a virgin? Set limits and tell her what you're willing and not willing to do. If she respects those limits, great. If not you might want to consider ending the relationship.
The number of dates does not mean anything. Nor does what 'most of your friends' do. The person you are going to have to live with is yourself. This girl may come and go.


If you are 30 years old, you should have made a moral decision long ago on this subject. If you still don't 'know for sure', I'd say it's time to decide on who you are and whether you respect yourself enough to make up your own mind.
Maybe you should find a church girl to appreciate the going slow thing...





On a personal note...My fiance had had sex 1 time 3 years before we met and he felt like he had to lie and say he had been with 6 people. However, if he had told me the truth it would not have bothered me and i might have understood why our first time together was so horrible LOL.





I think the girl would be flattered that you are not so carefree with your sex life.





Best of luck



don't go too fast, I don't really think girls find that attractive, if you wanna make a lil move you can just grab her butt or something, I know it's kinda weird but all the girls I've talked to and dated all like that





don't have sex, save it for when you're in love


be honest, she should respect you and if she doesn't she's not worth it
I wouldn't tell her your situation. When you get all hot and heavy, if she trys to take your pants off or something, tell her you like her and you want to wait a little while. Besides, waiting makes it more fun. Make sure you have some ';raincoats'; just in case, and maybe pull her on top so she can do the work. Also, pleasure yourself before you go out so you won't go to quickly.
Tell her you are an old fashioned, romantic type. Whatever you do, do not give in just because... You will never ever in your life have that ';first time'; again. Take your time and enjoy the relationship. If she does not understand, well bye, bye now and find someone who will understand. Best of luck, you'll make the right decision!
i think you should just do you. your friend may have said that but that's not what matters. it's up to the girl your with. i say just go with the flow. if its right %26amp; meant to happen, it'll happen but don't rush into anything or try to do something your not ready to do. hope this helps ya!
i'm sure many women would respect that you aren't pressuring them too soon, and she'll have respect that u dont sleep around. u really don't have to tell her anything u dont want to.
If you want to be serious with her, wait until your ready and never even tell her. Otherwise just sleep with her now, and then dump and enjoy the many other fish in the pond!
i think you should tell her upfron.. if she is the right girl for you, she will be accepting...if not, don't waste your or her time.
talk her down and dont move fast if you dont want if you dont want to do it dont
watch 40 year old virgin.
sleep with her!!!
When you tell her, you can't do the ';I have terminal leukemia'; speech as Dan Savage would call it. If you make being a virgin at 30 an issue, she'll do the same. It may be a hard sell, but if you don't make it a big deal, she won't. Let her know your intentions, and tell her that waiting is an important this (if you feel that way, staying a virgin until you're 30 is probably fueled by more than shyness). Don't get dramatic and scared or else she may be scared away.
Sir you have to understand that all girls aren't the same and in your predicament second on a secon date is pretty damn slow. You say you want things to go a little slower but sometimes you have to take a risk just to find out if you are mainly interested. If you take it too slow the woman becomes confused and doesn't understand what you are really looking for in her. If you all been out on two dates you should her enough to know if she is understanding or a FREAK! When you find yourself in the compromising position of having sex stop everything and tell her how you feel. If she stays she understands and likes you for you if she leaves move on with life. Taking things slow is good but to slow one begins to lose interest and zeal.
omfg your still a virgin at 30???????? you really need to get a hooker