First date advice for a shy person?

I have been working with this guy for a week now and he asked me out the other day. He has been trying to talk to me on breaks and whatnot but I'm kind of socially retarded... he was asking me some stuff like... ';why did you decide to work overnights'; and ';What kind of music do you like'; and then he said that I was hard to talk to. I think he is kind of on the shy side as well so our first date is probably not going to go to well if I keep being ';hard to talk to.'; How do I talk to him and what are some good questions to ask and maybe what should and shouldn't I say?First date advice for a shy person?
The best advice is to relax and be your self!


Let things flow, see if you have anything in common and if so roll with it. If you like the guy then don鈥檛 let him intimidate you, never feel that not saying anything at all is better then saying the wrong thing. All you can ever be in life is you, so be true to yourself and let your individuality flow free and see if he likes you for you; then GREAT, and if not then NEXT! It seems to me people take this who dating thing way too seriously!


~Have fun, be you鈥檙e self!First date advice for a shy person?
Well, I think if its only your first date then there is lots to talk about because you hardly know him. If you both are shy then why dont you start by saying, isnt it funny, we both are kinda shy ! or say hey we have something in common, we both are shy! and then start... the shyness will go away.. Trust me! Maybe you should start by ordering something to drink or to eat, ask him what he likes ? or suggest what he shud order? Just take it from there...
Don't worry about being shy, hun. It's a great quality to have. Anyway, just be yourself and try to keep the conversation fun and just let things flow. You can ask him questions and I'm sure he'll think it's great that you want to know about him. You can tell him about yourself, too. Wear something sexy, but not too sexy, for the date......a nice skirt or dress that's just above the knees, black sheer hose, and conservative closed toe heels.











Maybe, you could try bowling or something like that on your date. That way you can be a little more relaxed and can have fun, especially if you beat him.





I'd love to hear how it works out!!
From the get-go, tell him exactly that. That you think you are socially retarded, that you are hard to speak to because you think you are shy. If he feels the same about himself, hell, you may have found something in common that you can both speak about. Weird, no? Or, if he isn't as shy as you, he may take the initiative to lead the conversation. Just don't be so closed-off, try to respond as if you were talking to yourself in your head.
well just be yourself an be open with things try not to be stuck up cuase guys after a while they get tired of it an give up an then your going to regret not talking to them
I have been there too and I'm married now and still on the shy side..lol I would just start out with what you know about him if there is anything and add on to that. Such as music you both like. You can come out and just say that you think he is cute (if ya do). Might be hard to do but once you break the ice it will be easier to talk. Just remember the first few minutes are prolly gonna be hard but after that you will relax. Also I don't think there is anything that you shouldn't say, as long as your not insulting him or anything. Oh one big thing to remember, be yourself. Don't try to like the same things he likes just because you think he wont like you if you don't, opposites do attract of course!
go for it. it's better than taking a nap
Take it as it comes whatever comes up than start talking about it
You want to try to find out if you have anything in common. What are your interests? If you have a favorite movie, ask him if he's ever seen it. If not, tell him why it's so great. Ask him what his favorite movie is, etc. Do you like similar foods? What are your goals? What are his? The more common interests you can identify, the easier the conversation will flow.
Well, it's hard for one shy person to go out with another shy person. I tend to open up a lot more if the person I'm with is outgoing and puts me at ease. But if the other person is quiet, I start thinking, ';Someone needs to say something! Ack! What do I say?';


Go into the date thinking that he's shy and ill-at-ease and decide that you're going to try to not make him feel that way. This can bring you out of your shell (this is the approach I take at parties to force myself to talk to people-- I assume that no one knows anyone and I should make them feel comfortable).





Don't ask ';yes or no'; questions. Act very interested in what he says and laugh when appropriate. Ask him how he likes living in your city, where he used to live, where he grew up, is he doing what he always wanted or did he have other dreams when he was younger? If you ask stuff like, ';What do you like to do?'; people tend to feel put on the spot to come up with something interesting. Same with ';What kind of music do you like?'; Who cares? This doesn't promote conversation. ';Rock.'; Then what?





Just look for openings for deeper questions. Like, if someone says something was really scary for them, ask what is the scariest event they've ever lived through? Most people will have a story. That sort of thing.
LoL aww this is so cute first date. Well try to loosen up a little , be yourself. Try not to make the date awkward..choosing a nice comfortable restaurant would be a good idea. Don't go out somewhere thats extremely over the top romantic because you will get even more serious and shy. I say first dates should always be fun relaxing dates. Talk about your interest in music,food,art, tell him something funny that happen to you throughout the week. Joking around a little helps to loosen up and take away that shyness. Do not talk about your past relationships or any family drama or gossip about other people its too soon for that and it can get annoying.-best of wishes
try to ask opened ended questions and give him more then one word answers at every chance you get.
I'm a shy person also, but with dating, I've picked up some things.


1. It's never a bad idea to ask questions about the other person. Ask what they do for fun, if they have any pets, if they're close to their family, what are their friends like, what kind of music.


2. One of you will be more outgoing than the other, but the conversation needs to be 50/50. Guys like outgoing girls, be yourself, but don't be obnoxiously outgoing.


3. Don't put pressure on it. It's a first date. Picture this person as more of a friend, so you'll feel more comfortable, and don't put pressure on yourself.